Catching Up With Kate Walsh

I keep hitting her with wedding questions and she keeps giving me the look and answering short sentences. Then a publicist steps in and tells me to go back to Emmy questions. I oblige and ask her about "Grey's Anatomy" and being among her former co-stars on Sunday night. She gets chirpy again. Then I ask a question that I'm personally against but was told by higher ups to ask. They wanted to know if she had any thoughts on life on the set of "Grey's" since Isaiah Washington left. To me it was old news and it's a show she was no longer on. She now has her own show on ABC, "Private Practice." That was the end of this interview. She gave me the look of death. As soon as the camera went off she says to me she doesn't want to talk about any of that. I say, "I completely understand" and surprisingly she actually finishes my sentence, " I know you are just doing your job."

I have respect for celebrities that get this. Then she does something that surprises me. She turns to the publicist and tells her she does not want Access Hollywood using the stuff about the wedding because she said "all she was going to say in OK magazine." OK magazine had exclusive photos of her wedding and an interview with her. I send an e-mail out letting everyone know what happened and that Kate did not want us to use the wedding quotes. Needless to say this sparked an e-mail chain about how she could say something like this when she just spilled her guts to OK magazine? Someone points out that she was paid big bucks for that exclusive.

My guess is that despite her request, we will be using this interview on our show. At first, I feel guilty -- knowing it’s not my decision. That is until tonight. Before dinner, I picked up a copy of OK magazine and read it. Kate talks completely openly about her wedding. In fact, at one point I asked her about a quote I heard where she said she almost fainted. She actually tells me this is not true. Yet, when I read it just minutes ago she says, "It was so hot in the church and I felt faint. I think I need to drink some water."

So, which is it? One of you is lying. This is where I get angry. I respect when actors make it clear they don't talk about their personal lives. People like George Clooney have made this clear throughout their career. Here is what I don't respect. Don't spill your guts to someone like OK or People or Time or give an intimate interview to Barbara Walters and then expect others not to ask you personal questions. Either you are willing to talk about your life or you are not. You can't have it both ways. Look, we all have our own unique individual personalities and we are entitled to do what we want. If I were a celebrity I would be the type who blabs and blabs about their personal life.

If you are not that type, I'm OK with it. Let us know that upfront so we can decide how much publicity we are willing to throw your way. Just keep in mind that in the culture of celebrity we live in now no one truly cares about your movie, TV show, book or album. We want to know about you so we can feel like we are your friend or family member. You get married, Kate, we want to congratulate you. You screw up, Britney, we want to heal you. You have a baby, Halle, we want to be its Aunt or Uncle. Let us into your lives, just a little bit.