A Dose Of My Own Medicine

I missed this part. So, here is the e-mail sent to me with the details: "Ryan brought it up... then said he wanted to go over everything. He asked both of your ages, then asked how the bills would be split. Nate said you pay the mortgage now, and that he thinks he'll take over the bills, but you guys haven't talked about it, so he doesn't know for sure. Ryan guffawed at that, and then said, ‘Well, you know that she will be expecting a ring within a year.’ And then Nate said that your parents were a little upset that he hadn't proposed yet. Then Nate got sick of talking about it, and made Ryan move on. (Ryan's co-host gave Nate sh*% for telling your age on air). Overall, it was a cute little interaction."

Cute? This is Hollywood. We don't tell our real age! Discussing our financial arrangement? That's about as personal as you can get. Not cool.

I finally got in my car and turned the channel on only to hear listeners calling in giving their OPINIONS on our situation. I'm horrified as people began dissecting my life and discussing whether or not we should live together without being married. Then several people call in and say at my age I must be a "baby and wedding chaser" and I will surely be expecting a ring ASAP from him.

What!!!!!!!!!!!!

OK, I know this is not true so I just let it roll off of my back and try and laugh it off. Then it gets really ugly.

There is an 8-1/2 year age difference between Nate and I. It's very Ashton and Demi. I'm older than him. Some woman calls in and says I'm way too old for him and he should dump me and find someone younger. Now, I'm ready to jump through the radio and strangle this woman. I pick up my cell phone and begin to dial the radio station hotline determined to give these people a piece of my mind. Just then my Bluetooth phone rings and it's another one of my co-workers who apparently is reading my mind from his car and says, "Whatever you do, do not call in. Put the cell phone down and step away from the car."

I take his advice and put the cell phone back in my purse. Right at that moment another woman comes on and says she is 42 and has a 29 year old husband and they have a perfect relationship -- "Age is just a number", she says. Finally!!… someone is defending me.

For the record, here is what I would have said if I had the chance. I think with the divorce rate being so high that you should really know everything about someone before you make the ultimate commitment. I am not a baby chaser or a wedding chaser just because I’m in my thirties. That's a stereotype that ignorant people continue to put out there. Why do people accept an older man with a younger woman but a younger man with an older woman is still taboo? It's all about personality, character and where you’re at in life. Some people are old souls. Some people are young souls and it’s entirely possible that they get along perfectly well.

When I got to work, it was the hot topic of the day as many other of my co-workers had also heard it on the way into work. I finally have some sympathy for celebrities who try to keep their private lives private.

I'm still going to ask them about it, though.