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Showering Up With 'The Bachelorette's' Jeremy Anderson
Judging from the amount of ladies writing in comments on my last blog about "The Bachelorette's" Jeremy Anderson, I figured he's got to be one of the most popular male rejects of all time. I say reject with all due respect as I've gotten to know Jeremy recently and he's anything but a reject. He's a total sweetheart -beyond just being easy on the eyes.
Women who have never even met him have created a petition to make him the next "Bachelor" and they're going above and beyond finding out ways to contact him. Some have gone so far as to take out ads on Craigslist to find him!
I wanted to update everyone on how Jeremy has been holding up since the finale. I was horrified watching him go back on that final show to try and change DeAnna's mind. The show made it seem like he had hung out for several days lying in wait for her. It made him look, I thought, like a bit of a stalker. However, in the back of my mind I was pretty sure that all unfolded on the night he was eliminated, despite how ABC made it seem – especially, since I was pretty sure he was wearing the exact same clothes as the week before!
This morning Jeremy and I had a long talk about all things "The Bachelorette." We talked for so long I actually took a shower with him! Well, he showered at his home in Dallas while I was on the phone 1,800 miles away in Los Angeles. A girl can dream though, right? Thank goodness he told me this after the fact, otherwise my mind may have wandered off to uh, other things, while I was trying to ask insightful questions. Kudos to him for his fantastic multi-tasking! Here's some of what Jeremy and I spoke about this morning.
OK, so, did you actually wait around in the Bahamas for DeAnna to come back?
"It was an hour and half after the rose ceremony. It wasn't days later. I went back under the premise, I got this pretty concrete feeling that DeAnna was second guessing her decision and wanted to talk to me about it, and that there was a possibility that there might be a change of heart if I went back and talked to her about it."
Do you regret going back now after she rejected you again?
"It's a little bit out of my character. I don't normally chase after someone that I see is going after someone else. I just don't do that to myself. In one sense I'd say that I wouldn't go back had I had the opportunity to do it again. But to the same point this whole show was out of character to me. If I’m going to start strictly going by what I normally do then I never would have gone on the show. The whole show was about me stepping outside of my comfort zone and doing things differently to see if there would be a different result."
(In a strange coincidence, Grand Bahama Island is where Jeremy's parents Honeymooned. He and DeAnna's fantasy date was in the exact same resort they stayed in.)
I meant to ask you last week. They showed a photo of your mother and she looked a lot like DeAnna. Was that part of the reason why you were attracted to her?
I've dated every type of person but I've always wanted to date someone who had the same features and colors. My mom was definitely a beautiful woman. She had black hair, deep brown eyes. There was a lot of similarities with her and DeAnna in coloring and some of her features. I don't think that really played a huge part but maybe subconsciously it did."
US Weekly magazine reported this week that you are currently dating Chelsea Wanstrath, the girl Matt Grant let go over Shayne Lllamas on the "Bachelor: London Calling"
"Chelsea is a beautiful girl and I have gotten a chance to get to know her pretty well. I have tons of fun with her and she lets me be myself. As far as whether or not we are dating... right now we are having fun getting to know one another. We aren't in a rush. So, we will see where it goes, but yes we are definitely spending as much time as we can together. I reached out to her when I got cut to try to make sense of everything and we hit it off straight away (a little Aussie slang). I saw her on the premiere of her season and thought she was hot and had a great personality. When I saw her in person I thought, 'Wow, she was hot on TV but ten times hotter in person."'
You left your law firm to go on the show and it's up in the air if you will be asked back. How is the job search going?
"I am still interviewing all over the country."
The show portrayed you as having a pretty rough relationship with the guys but that wasn’t really the case was it? You became the show's resident metrosexual?
"I was always helping the guys out with ties and shirts and other wardrobe issues. I would always point it out to the guys when they had something in their hair or on their face or whatever. I would prefer someone to tell me if I had something wrong with me too. It is a common courtesy with your friends to look out for them. We were a tighter knit group than it seemed on the show. I would go to bat for any one of those guys, especially Richard, Graham, and Bryan. But none of the guys needed it. If I had a sister, I would have a hard time deciding which one was best to set her up with because they were all genuinely good guys."
And what about Jesse who had some interesting wardrobe choices during the show?
"I am just wondering who tied his tie for the finale because I tied his ties all season long."
Have they asked you to be the next "Bachelor"?
"What I have heard is that they have not really talked to anyone yet. I have spoken to some of the other guys about it, that are pretty popular on that list, and they haven’t heard anything either. I don’t know if they are going to use one of they guys from the previous season or not."
And would you still consider doing it?
"If I’m going to actually practice law and make a living practicing law then I have got to show that I’m very serious about law. I love what I do. I love the people I work with. However, if I still haven't launched a career or gotten back into my career than, yeah, I would totally do it. I would do it in a heartbeat."
Have you seen the petition to make you the next "Bachelor"?
"Some people say that men are very motivated and very ambitious, but seriously, you get a woman set on a path and she will take it and she will do whatever she has to do! I have had people contact me through, you would not believe, any means necessary! I had no idea that girls would go after guys like that!"
Jeremy, you truly are an amazing man with a huge heart! You always stick up for the others guys, even though they said so many negative things about you. You are a class act! And what a sweetheart you are for helping them with wardrobe issues. You have great style! No wonder so many of us fell in love with you. I'm glad you're taking your time in finding love. I wish you all the best.
WE WANT JEREMY TO BE THE NEXT BACHELOR... PLEASE ABC HEAR OUR PLEA.
Why would a professional, educated man say he is principally interested in a woman because she it "hot." Seems to be his chief interest in Deanna. Chelsea dropped her panties on national TV, was blatantly sexual, and not especially deepy or articulate. So, Jeremy is impressed by Pheremones. Reflects where he is in this stage of life.
Jeremy is also delusional if he thinks ABC would pick him to be the next bachelor as an unemployed bachelor who can't get his career back on track.
While Jeremy is a good looking, intelligent guy, his character leaves a lot to be desired.As Ron said, "You're lacking something, brother" -- ie, tact, integrity, etc. I see that in this interview.
Jeremy is just a social climber who wants a woman who will make him feel good and who is "hot." I don't see a good future ahead for him socially. He will wind up with a "hot" girl who will impress all his colleagues until she opens her mouth and who will ultimately cheat on him, manipulate/control him sexually. Hes not a high functioning male, which explains his attraction to Deanna.
Brian W. who was a noble guy was not given a second glance...whereas guys like Jesse who came on the show for beer and paries and Graham, who was a player and drifter appeal to Deanna. Reading this interivew, Jeremy is a lot more on Deanna's level than he realizes.
I am not impressed.
Jeremy, You will be just fine without Deanna but hey if Jason is going to be friends with Jesse and Deanna then you should too.
I think that "hot" is just a term that the younger generation uses to describe someone attractive these days. I totally love Jeremy and feel that he would be an awesome bachelor on the show. He is everything that any woman would want in a husband.
Jeremy is a class act all the way. He is upfront and doesn't hold anything back. He says what he feels. Saying someone is hot is just another way for him to say something nice. He was the one guy (besides Fred) who never spoke negative words about anyone on the show. Deanna truly did not deserve him. He is so above her. ABC would be crazy not to ask him to be the next bachelor. He is a perfect gentleman. The show tried to play him like a stalker. However, my friends and I saw him as a go getter. Isn't that what every woman wants in a real man? He certainly didn't play any games. I wish you the best Jeremy. However, I don't think Chelsea is right for you. You're too classy for her too. She always sounds so drunk.
Jeremy, I've been married for 27 years, but if you agree to be my boyfriend, I'll leave my husband for you. ;-) Seriously though, you're wonderful, sweet, down to earth and any girl would be so blessed to have you as her husband. Best of luck to you sweetie!
Jeremy...all i have to say is...I wish i was Chelsea Wanstrath right now. haha. But really, I can tell your a good genuine guy...because trust me i have been with alot of bad one..and one thing that i have to comment you on is what good communication you have in relationships. its amazing. keep up the good work! You will find her in no time. I promise :)
I also think ABC should pick Jeremy for the simple reason that he is probably the most discussed bachelorette reject in the history of the show. ABC, just think about how many woman will watch the show, or better yet, how many woman will want to be on the show.
I think Jeremy is nearly as prefect as a man can be - so what if he likes hot woman, everyone likes attractive people. All I hope is that he can look beyond the appearance and find someone can truely connect on a mental level. (which means I don't think Chelsea is the right one)
And Jeremy, if you ever read this, even if your law career fails you given the publicity that you have now (and lawyers tend to be more conservative in nature?) , you can always try the entertainment world, have you ever consider to be an actor? :)
I would love to see Jeremy as the Next Bachelor!!!!
As for Chelsea - she is a happy person, and what better way to heal from such an experience then with a happy person who has been there. As for a long lasting romantic relationship, I don't see her as fitting the profile he is most attracted too; but they share a rare experience (both having gone through the romance show war zone) and few of us can relate to that.
I hope ABC get's back on track and grabs Jeremy to be the next Bachelor! He had the most posts on boards from day 1 of the show, and is undoubtedly the bachelor with the most charisma to pull off such a show.
Go Jeremy!!!
Wow, I used to think Jeremy was a great guy, and down to earth, but after reading his comments about how "hot" Chelsea is, I think he's kind of a shallow jerk.
It's really irritating that intelligent guys go after pretty/stupid girls, and refuse to date average-looking/smart girls. I mean let's be real- DeAnna was pretty, but she was really dumb--she had an Associates degree in "General Studies" (ie: a 2 yr degree in nothing) that she only earned at age 25.
Maybe he should be the next Bachelor, because the women on that show are dumb tramps most of the time (just look at Shayne from the last Bachelor season).
Sue, I can't believe you used the word "deepy" and "articulate" in the same sentence. Haha. I think Jeremy would be a good bachelor although a little boring.
I agree, Jeramy would be boring as the next bachelor. I'm sure he's a decent guy, but ABC gave him more air time than they really should have. Please do NOT have him as the next bachelor!!!
Fifteen minutes over, Jeremy. Go away for a while, huh? Geez, how long are you going to milk this for? Some therapy wouldn't hurt either.
Oh c'mon, ABC. Do not pick this very boring guy for the next Bachelor! Please don't. He is coming across as very immature and he has no sense of fun.
He's way too serious for a light hearted entertainment program. Rating would fall like Niagra Falls!
Let's have a brand new face on this show. That way, we don't know what to expect.
That's what the Bachelor is all about, as we know, is surprises.
Please, a new face! Please!
I agree with some of the points that "Sue" wrote on July 11...(see above post). The word "hot" seems common and trite for someone as seemingly and refreshingly refined as Jeremy. Throughout the entire show Jeremy spoke so well, so openly and easily.
The way Chelsea portrayed herself on the Bachelor was again very common, inarticulate, cheap and in my opinion below the standard that I feel Jeremy truly is.
You have impeccable style for a straight guy...the double vented jackets and spread collar shirts and lack of silly tattoos....You are a class act.
Whoever you end up with long term should be very lucky to have you.
Michael
Pleeeaasse! No more Jeremy!! I would not watch a whole season of Jeremy on the Bachelor. He looks like he is carved out of wood and is just about as interesting.
i was one of the creepers that tried to find out how to get ahold of him... haha he is one sexy guy and those girls who are doing desperate measures are the ones to get to know
Jeremy would make a great next Bachelor! He is smart, articulate and has a great mind and body. I did not find him boring one bit.
From what I saw on the show, he knows how to treat a lady right - he puts his whole heart into it. My advice: When it comes down to actually choosing a spouse (if that is what he wants) there needs to be a strong bond of friendship, respect, companionship and loyalty, and yes, someone good-looking doesn't hurt either. Having a great sense of humor and not taking everything so personally will definately help you and Ms. Right roll with the punches.
Jeremy, what advice did your mom give you when she was alive? Think of her soft-spoken words to you. I believe she was a great mother because she raised a sensitive, caring human being.
I wish you the very best of luck! You're awesome dear!
He's not listed as an atty on the Texas bar page.
I really liked the way you treated DeAnna and I also saw how you were with the guys. You carried yourself very well.
I admired you for clearing things up with DeAnna - to help you understand why she did not keep you. That was really brave of you and it really broke my heart. However, on the other hand, I also felt that she thought so highly of you that she felt that she did not fit in your level. Remember how she said that you are perfect in every way.
Look for someone your level!
Talking about sick to the stomach, I know very well how that feels. I have been in such a situation when the person I was really very much in love with had rejected me and yeah, I was sick to my stomach, I felt like throwing up.
To this day, I feel so bad and I am sick to my stomach and tears even roll down my cheeks no matter how much I have accepted it and gone pass it because I just know that there is no way i could be with that person.
Hope you heal well by finding a very intelligent individual and not one whose only connection is that she has also been through the same experience. Remember DeAnna mentioned that she did not want for both of you confuse the connection you had about losing your loving Moms for love.
My advise keep Chelsea as a friend but that is all you have really. You have better look for a more sensible woman for a wife and I am sure your will find one - out of the Bachelor or the Bachelorette circle. You have to get pass this! Just take what you learned from the show and look for HER elsewhere. You are a wonderful, fine guy!
You were my favorite. Down the road you will understand that DeAnna was not what you really wanted. She is not ready for marriage, right now only having fun, trying to grow up...really, trying to figure out who she is. You were way too good for her. Keep looking,when the time is right, you will find a perfect partner, one that is mature and up in age, educated - on your level, loving, sincere and serious to make a lasting commitment. Please, do NOT accept the next Bachelor...... a waste of time and effort. You are beyond all this...way too good, smart, educated and a levelheaded ,amazing man.
Jeremy. You were a real douche.
No one bought it. We all know you just want to be the next bachelor